Name:	OhBeJoyful -	Reply
Subject:	Adults behaving like adults
Date:	5/17/2018 11:00:39 PM

I used to love this forum. Everyone commented respectfully, the comments seemed well thought out. I re-thought a few things I thought my mind was set on. I enjoyed reading different perspectives from people who lived in my area of the US. I grew up middle class in Alabama, got pregnant at 19 (while on birth control pill), wasn't married, couldn't afford a baby, had an abortion. Later married, I have worked since I was 15 (babysitting), have a BS degree, and a great job. My mother, who was a teenager in the 1940s, talked about 1-2 girls she knew who died from back alley abortions. It seems we can all agree on some things, abortion is tragic, out of wedlock babies not the best way to raise children, domestic violence is bad, lying is bad. All of that is not why I started this post. My point is most of you seem to be well educated, reasoned people -- why do you resort to childish, for lack of a better word, "spelling" taunts, why not set an example and be respectful to people you don't agree with. I wake up everyday asking for a better world and I believe it starts with me.

i know I will probably get some ugly comments from this post, but I hope some of you read it, and think next time you post.

Name:	phil -	Reply
Subject:	Adults behaving like adults
Date:	5/18/2018 8:54:08 AM

I see no reason for ugly comments.  You have worked to better yourself abortion or not, and have no problems with your decision you made - as it was not my decision to make, I do not know you or what led you to make one decision over another.  Birth control and condoms are not perfect, you indicated that you at least made an effort to avoid becoming pregnant, which is more then I can say about some where today options are available, free and plentiful.

You sound like a reasonable human being who did what you had to and made something of yourself.  You have a job and are not standing in line for a handout.  

I can respect you - others on this site, not so much.

Name:	wix -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/18/2018 10:06:01 AM

Your post has had me analyzing why you posted what you did.  Your sin of abortion, against God and humanity, appears to have played heavy on your heart, as it should.  Forgiveness is between you and our Lord.

As to this website, yes, the subjects have evolved over the years and now the Off Topic site is pretty much political.  I noticed you are registered on Yates Lake.  The old original website would take you to Lake Martin Forum, but that forum was broken into multiple forums some years ago.  You might want to register as Lake Martin and you'll have access to Lake Martin Forum, which is mostly local Lake topics and may be more to your liking.  My suggestion, if you don't like what you see on any website, move on.  We have a wonderful, free country.  Try Facebook.com.

Name:	GoneFishin -	Reply
Subject:	Adults behaving like adults
Date:	5/18/2018 10:08:33 AM

"why not set an example and be respectful to people you don't agree with" This is her question to the Forum.

"I can respect you - others on this site, not so much."

I don't read that she is seeking respect for her personal decicisons. Rather, she is seeking answers regarding the Forum in general. I think your response leaves her wondering why difference of opinions often leads to a lack of respect and why adults can't behave like adults?

Name:	GoneFishin -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/18/2018 10:13:08 AM

"why not set an example and be respectful to people you don't agree with." Why not try and answer her question?

Name:	phil -	Reply
Subject:	Adults behaving like adults
Date:	5/18/2018 10:26:48 AM

She indicated that she would probably get some negative comments regarding her decisions - I indicated I see nothing wrong with what she has done in the past.

I also indicated that while I can respect her and her decisions - I can not respect some on this board for their statements, yourself included GFY.

Name:	phil -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/18/2018 10:29:17 AM (updated 5/18/2018 10:31:39 AM)

GFY - Tell you what - you start being respectful of our President and post something other then paid off a porn star/grabbed em by the lady parts/President Hitler and we can see where this board goes.  

WHy dont you get off your high horse and answer the lady since you want everyone else to.

I stand by my opinion of you - Hold everyone else to a higher standard then yourself while quoting the Bible, telling everyone else what their sin is while not looking in the mirror.

Name:	phil -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/18/2018 11:10:08 AM

The other option on this site is if you do not care for what some are posting - You can click on their name and click the ignore button.  That person and anyone responding to that person disappears. 

You could probably ignore 2-3 people and 99% of the what offends most people would vanish, too bad this option is not available in real life as it could really make life better sometimes.

GFY has stated often that he loves the ignore status and that he considers it an honor to have a high count.

I am of the opposit opinion - a high count indicated that you must be doing something wrong in life, if you want to ignore me go for it - it might help.

I would not go to the WIX extreme option of leave and go to facebook, unless you were just completly at the end of what you started coming here for.

Name:	GoneFishin -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/18/2018 6:38:10 PM

You seem to be suggesting that I should only post what you want me to post. Son, that is censorship. You need to accept whatever is posted and deal with it in a mature way. No one suggests you have to agree with anything. The lady is simply asking why you resort to Go F Yourself when you simply disagree.

Phil, only you can answer that.

Name:	phil -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/21/2018 8:48:40 AM

Thank God I do not agree with you, and never asked you to agree with me.  

I rest my case as to your inabililty to act like the requested adult, you want to wrongly state that I am attempting to censure you - you keep whining that we need to try and answer her question - when you yourself refuse to do so.

I think that the lady may or may not be in on the inside joke GFY, Only she can answer that one - but I believe that her origional posting was about all of us acting a little more mature - I do not feel that you are outside of the realm of the offenders of decency.

Name:	GoneFishin -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/21/2018 12:27:53 PM

Your post states your position and disagrees with me in a mature way.  This all she is asking for and you delivered......"why not set an example and be respectful to people you don't agree with"?

"GFY - Tell you what - you start being respectful of our President and post something other then paid off a porn star/grabbed em by the lady parts/President Hitler and we can see where this board goes."  To me this is censorship...if I post what you want me to post the board may change. 

I have spent the last 12 years on the Forum reading 100% negative comments from the Right about Obama and Michelle. The only thing positive about Trump has been the tax cut and my savings next year when I file. Other than that, to me he has been a failure.

As to my response, it is simply...show me where I have called someone a Piece of S""t. an Ahole, or told them to G F themselves? It means nothng to me but, obviously, bothers the lady. 

Name:	phil -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/22/2018 9:20:41 AM

I believe you are putting words in her mouth as to what she is offended by.  I would not be suprised if she is offended by me, but you seem to think you are above offense.

The reference to GFY not being good fiscal year was many months ago, and since it is also a shorthand of your handle on the site - She may or may not have even caught it unless she was really paying attention.

It is my opinion she is talking about all of us, both defense and offense - but politics does bring out the worst in everyone.

The fact that you think I am attempting to silence your freedom of speech is laughable.  What I was stating was that based on her post we could all clean it up, yourself included and bring the conversation into a more adult arena. In my opinion you have missed the point of her post, while playing a game of kiddie blame game.  

Name:	GoneFishin -	Reply
Subject:	OhBeJoyful
Date:	5/22/2018 10:38:53 AM

"What I was stating was that based on her post we could all clean it up, yourself included and bring the conversation into a more adult arena" 

Agreed...........

Name:	Barneget -	Reply
Subject:	Adults behaving like adults
Date:	5/23/2018 2:30:51 AM

OBJ, great comeback from difficult circumstances. And great points made. A couple of responders to your post can confirm that I used to spend time here. Then, the simpleminded 8 year olds with bully mindsets and internet access seemed to take over. When I found myself sometimes acting like they do, I decided it was time to leave. And I left. I still check back in here once in awhile because the adults often still share great points on every side of an argument. I cant stay because the unruly and disrepectful name calling little bazztards that should have had their butts paddled often have such a disproportionate presence. Anyway, it sure would be nice if your message got through to the people that need it. And thanks again for pointing it out. 

Name:	GoneFishin -	Reply
Subject:	Adults behaving like adults
Date:	5/23/2018 7:25:16 AM

Barneget...nice to see ya. Hope you and family are doing well.

Name:	Barneget -	Reply
Subject:	Adults behaving like adults
Date:	5/23/2018 11:00:40 AM

Thanks Fishy, all doing s’well (super well) here. Hope same is true for you and yours. Spent a couple of days on the Jersey side of the bridges last month. What a nightmare now. Traffic. ATtitudes. Grey skies. So much negativity about so many things. And, friends and family not talking to each other over politics. Oooph. Don’t want to know how or why they live that way. That was the last of the attendance expected funerals. I can’t think of any good reason to put myself in that situation ever again. Thankfully, was able to quickly return to Sweet Home Alabama.