I give you credit, you are the best at taking a situation and taking it to the extreme. I don't know why you are hung up on whom is misunderstanding whom. I was merely trying to use a family's need to manage their finances as a comparison to the need for the federal government to do the same. For whatever reason, you said you took it that I was implying that it was a "husbands" duty to have "control" over his wife's spending. Nothing could be further from the truth. You seem to enjoy your gift of belittingly people as you referred to me as a Neanderthal, controlling husband who pulls his wife around by the hair of the head. Instead of the example I used to describe a family's need to manage their finances, I could have just as easily have used the husband as the one whose spending needed to be controlled. But leave it to good old Architedt, he had to make a mountain out of a mole hill. Also, maybe you need to heed your "own" advice and have your wife exert some "control" over your posts.