Name:   Talullahhound - Subject:   From a Woman's perspective - Trump allegations Date:   10/14/2016 4:49:47 PM

Ever since it came out that in 2005, Donald spoke in an unguarded way with another man about women.  He apparently admires women for the way they look; and his appreciation runs to the young and lovely.  This morning, one of my FB friends provided a link to an article in HuffPost, about how awful it is that women have learned to deal with all kinds of remarks and unwanted advances, and not funny jokes. 

For most of my career, worked in a mostly male environment.  In my jobs, sometimes I needed a man to teach me something, sometimes I needed him to do something to move along whatever it was I was working on.  Sometimes jokes were made that were not PC by today's standards, but it wasn't meant to hurt me and in a perverse way, it was probably meant to say that I was appreciated for being a woman.  Before PC came into being, there was a lot of good natured bantering between the sexes - maybe sometimes it went a little too far for comfort, but it really didn't amount to enough to initiate a confrontation.  I really can't think of any of the men I worked with, save one, that I felt sexually harassed or offended, when I was a young woman.  I am not now or have I ever been ashamed to be female. I don't know what might or might have been said about me in private conversations, nor do I want to know. It isn't any of my business.  I was hired to do a job and rated and promoted based on how well I did the job.  This was before computers kept everyone glued to their desk, and we actually used to get up and go see people.  At the time, we were alll still getting used to women in the workplace who weren't secretaries.  A lot of men I worked with still thought of women as mothers, daughters, sisters, and wives. 

Yes, women are sometimes subjected to a joke or comment that really goes too far.  But a smart woman knows how to turn the tables and make it into a joke or makes a snappy comeback.  This isn't becuase we feel threatened or intimidated, most of us can stand up for ourselves, but does anyone want to take every comment and turn it into a confrontation?