(Lake Martin Specific)
111,143 messages
Updated 4/25/2024 7:30:23 PM
Lakes Online Forum
83,605 messages
Updated 4/25/2024 9:33:24 PM
Lakes Online Forum
5,193 messages
Updated 4/3/2024 3:47:36 AM
(Lake Martin Specific)
4,169 messages
Updated 4/16/2024 3:16:57 AM
Lakes Online Forum
4,169 messages
Updated 4/15/2024 11:05:05 PM
Lakes Online Forum
4,260 messages
Updated 3/24/2024 9:24:45 AM
Lakes Online Forum
2,976 messages
Updated 3/20/2024 11:53:43 PM
(Lake Martin Specific)
169 messages
Updated 5/31/2023 1:39:35 PM
Lakes Online Forum
98 messages
Updated 4/15/2024 1:00:58 AM
|
|
|
| Name: |
lamont
- 
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/9/2010 3:58:44 PM
|
I gave away my last child to marriage this weekend and it just happened to be my youngest and my only daughter. Wow, so much different than my son's weddings. Anywho, I was just wondering, is it OK for a loving dad to cry walking his daughter down the isle? Not that I did or anything.... I just wanted to take a poll.
Oh yeah, while we are at it, is it OK for the Dad to get misty-eyed while giving a rather long-winded toast at the reception? Not that I did or anything, I just wanted the board members thoughts. Finally, in my happiness for this union, we love her husband, is it OK for the dad to feel melancholy, sp? These are all hypotheticals of course... and please.... no politics on this one.
|
| Name: |
Tall Cotton
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/9/2010 5:38:21 PM
|
Not only OK, but expected, no matter how macho you try to be.
|
| Name: |
water_watcher
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/9/2010 7:23:50 PM
|
First congratulations ...
Second ... it is PERFECTLY ok to cry walking your youngest and only daughter down the isle to give her away. Not that you did .... but if you did, it would be perfectly ok. :) That is pride !!!
|
| Name: |
Talullahhound
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/9/2010 8:37:18 PM
|
Only if the Dad in question loves his daughter and believes he is the luckiest guy in the world to be sharing her special day.
And if the Dad in question feels a bit melancholy when it's all over -- well, it's a milestone moment, right? And a reminder of how quickly time passes.
|
| Name: |
alahusker
-
|
|
| Subject: |
Lamont, my Man..
|
|
Date:
|
3/9/2010 8:51:03 PM
|
Tears are OK, but if you are are really lucky you will see a grandchild from the union.. Believe me Pal, you love and cherish grandkids as much as your first born.. I'm blessed with three of the little 'toads' and I smile just thinking about them...
|
| Name: |
DirtDiva
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/9/2010 9:15:12 PM
|
Congratulations!
It takes a real man to cry. Hypothetically, a real man would tear up, sniff a little, get all choked up during the toast because he's so proud!!!
You go!!!!!!
|
| Name: |
GoneFishin
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/9/2010 11:39:20 PM
|
Well, I did but I thought only those who voted for.... Opps, sorry for the wandering. Hey, Lamont congratulations! Only someone who has lived the experience can really understand how it feels to hand that lil girl over to someone else as you have flash backs of all the years gone by. This was our second as our son was first in marriage. Suddenly, you are empty nesters. Before long, life goes on with the infamous call...we're expecting!!!!!! And the joy of a little one, the cycle of giving and receiving love from your grandchuild, becomes reality.
|
You are the only one that tries to inject humor or make it somehow a political thing. Did anyone else do that? No. As I have said ... very strange.
|
| Name: |
MartiniMan
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/10/2010 8:06:38 AM
|
I think all are perfectly reasonable and necessary given the event. I once heard a very wise friend of mine who has only one daughter state that the most important thing he can do for the future happiness of his daughter is to help her discern the right man to marry. He went onto say that of all the decisions one can make in life, this one had the most significance in terms of future happiness or future unhappiness, pain and turmoil.
Having lived one side of that equation (25 years of marriage) and seen the other side (divorce) with several of my friends and family members I could not agree more with that statement. Considering the importance of that decision and how we all want what is best for our children all those emotions are perfect.
|
| Name: |
Yankee06
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/10/2010 9:54:39 AM
|
Is it OK? ...sure it's OK, ...it's natural.
-The older I get the more emotional I seem to get. It's embarrassing to go to the movies anymore.
-However, several years ago i thought about all the crying I saw at retirements, weddings, funerals, etc. I decided that it was good and natural ..and cathartic.
-However, after thinking about it a little more, I came to teh conclusion that these are really, in most cases, celebrations (with the exception of early, untimely deaths). Retirements that bring tears usually mean that the celebrant enjoyed his/her job, friends , etc. The same with weddings, etc. Now I try to focus on the joy of all these events.
-Now, I cry less and party more. Life is a wonderful journey.
|
| Name: |
lamont
-
|
|
| Subject: |
Thanks, Thanks, Thanks.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/10/2010 12:40:52 PM
|
to all of you that responded. Actually, it was not a hypothetical, as you well know. This was the most difficult yet, most satisfying thing in my life. Many of you mentioned grandchildren which I already have 3 through my 2 sons and yes, they are truly a gift from God. In addition, my daughter usually calls me every morning on the way to work. She has not called me this week because she is somewhere in Mexico on a honeymoon. So, I emailed her Blackberry and told her that if she and my new son are "working" on giving me another grandchild that I would forgive her for not contacting me. I have not heard from her since. I know, I know.... to much information. Thanks again for your responses.
|
| Name: |
Mack
-
|
|
| Subject: |
Some Advice>>>>
|
|
Date:
|
3/10/2010 4:58:06 PM
|
1. The tears apply to Sons as well as Daughters, for me.
2. Go Easy on the push for grandchildren. As I was reminded one day, "You Ain't Gotta Raise Em'". I hushed.
|
| Name: |
widgethater
-
|
|
| Subject: |
OK Here's the Deal.....
|
|
Date:
|
3/11/2010 1:02:40 PM
|
I would say that there would be something wrong with you if you didn't have those feelings and emotions. God bless the new union.
|
|
|
New Post
Search
Off-Topic Forum
Reply
»
Alabama Lakes
»
Lake Martin
Login
|
Home
